I found them to be a little silly, maybe too western?
As I read them I was reminded of a book I was given when I was in a promising relationship called The Hard Questions: 100 Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do.” by Susan Piver. I found that it spoke to me almost perfectly as she voiced the different concerns she personally had that brought her to discuss very real, often difficult, questions with the man she loves before she felt ready to marry him.
) you will realise it’s a really fun and easy going singles event with other friendly singles.
Everyone is in the same boat – they want to meet new people just like you for friendship and dating. There is a famous saying that goes “smile and world smiles with you”.
Wow, we have so much in common…) ———- Am I the only one who’s a liiiittle sick of all the small talk that is requisite in dating? Last week I read an article in the NY Times about a woman who, with a man she was on a first date with, decided to try to fall in love by going through a list of tested questions that get supposedly progressively more probing and exposing.
This normally, or ideally, happens gradually over time but in this case, it is given a catalyst – structure that helps it happen in a more accelerated way.
The cool thing is that the questions in the study are catalysts for the of a relationship (which by definition means it isn’t necessarily going to go anywhere) and the questions in the book are for a relationship that is already committed or is very much leaning towards commitment.
Both groups of questions can also be used repeatedly in a relationship as the relationship and the individuals evolve, in order to continue to be in tune with each other.
Trust me, after the first speeddate or two (and after the first drink or two!
For first-timers to speed dating events, wondering which questions to ask can be a little daunting. Ditch or Date offers everyone the chance to ask interesting and reasonable questions after they’ve read our suggestions.
We also have a blog which will have helpful tips added every month so you have a better idea of what to ask the person sitting opposite you during a speed dating evening.
How did you get started in that line of work? There is plenty of help available out there with personal trainers, assertiveness courses, interpersonal skills etc. We have sourced a couple of websites which might be of help. Personal Hygiene Personal hygiene is the first step to good grooming and good health. Neglect causes problems that you may not even be aware of.
Try not to offer information about yourself unless you are asked. Be complimentary about the other person, but be genuine. If you are a guy be chivalrous and buy the lady a drink if time permits.