You don’t have to make any calculations about the height of your heels. Yes, it makes sense to narrow your pool of potential suitors based on what you value — it’s very reasonable to look for someone with a basic understanding of grammar, for example — but too long a list of non-negotiables can blind you to people who could make you very happy. If you "only date" men at least 6 feet tall, you’re shooting yourself in the foot as far as selection. Dating shorter can help you get over your own insecurities about size.While other women might feel like they have to pass on a perfectly cute pair of shoes or stick to flats so they stay shorter than their dates, you’re already taller than your man in bare feet, what’s the difference between being 2 inches taller or 5? When I first started dating a shorter guy, I felt insecure: not about my own height but about whether I would read as "feminine" to my partner and, admittedly, to the world when we were out together.I know many an otherwise open-minded woman who swears that she would never date someone shorter than she is, and I used to count myself among them. According to the CDC, the average height difference between men and women is 5.5 inches (coincidentally — or maybe not — that’s about the same length as the average erect penis. And both men and women feel pressure to adhere to height norms: One 2008 study of college students found that about 50 percent of guys wanted their partners to be shorter than them, while 90 percent of women wanted their partners to be taller than them.I clock in at 5-foot-10, a good 6 inches taller than the average American woman, and had never considered dating a guy shorter than me until I ended up falling for one — and I’m happy I did. I’m here to tell you that this requirement is overrated. Guys who are comfortable with you being taller are likely comfortable with your ambition, intellect, and talent too.According to Alan Au, client relations manager at the clothing boutique “Jimmy Au’s For Men 5’8″ and Under” in Beverly Hills, the “mate retention behaviors” of short men are precisely why you should date them.As part of a case for dating short guys, he says, “Considering lifelong companionship, shorter guys may be the better choice.
When I joined OKCupid, my top (and, really, only) priority was filtering my potential matches by height. I have more than once met someone whom I wrote off as a total moron and/or asshole, then shortly thereafter proceeded to fall in love with.But I bristle at the implication that there’s something inherently morally wrong about who I choose to date. I acknowledge that my palate is flawed and that I’m missing out on any number of delicious, well-crafted dishes that everyone else can enjoy.Guilting yourself into pursuing someone who you know, empirically, doesn’t do anything for you is a waste of time for everyone involved. Yes, maybe every once in a while I should take a bite of goat cheese and see if I like it — in case it is, as they say, an acquired taste. That is a waste of excellent goat cheese someone else would’ve loved to have eaten, not to mention that I will probably vomit all over you.(To be fair, I am arguably both a moron and an asshole.) Refusing to date short men out of fear you’ll “look funny together” or that you won’t feel comfortable wearing heels — two of the common reasons preaches against — is rull, rull dumb, ladies.If you want to date somebody, date the shit out of them.Shorter men have lower incidences of cardiovascular disease when comparing taller men with the same health conditions.” Short men may be known for their “Napoleon complex,” but as Chiara Atik wrote in a 2012 post for the How About We blog quality to have in a boyfriend.” She also notes, “the general consensus from women seems to be that guys who don’t necessarily feel the most attractive will often work much harder in bed, whereas the Don Drapers of the world, who are used to being wanted and pursued by women, focus more on the act of receiving pleasure than giving it.” (Actor Jon Hamm, who plays Don Draper on “Mad Men,” is 6’2″.) Blogger Jeanna Barrett – who is going on 50 dates to food trucks (my kind of girl) – says in this post that short guys make great dates because they “are a more comfortable hug height and fit like puzzle pieces in your arms.” I understand where she’s coming from.While I’m not sure that dating a guy who is several inches shorter than me would work for me (I’m only 5’4″), I do prefer guys who are around my height or just a little bit taller … I joked recently that, “When it comes to relationships, the guy has to be taller.In fact, a brand new study found that the rate of divorce among short men is significantly less than among average and tall men.So let's strip you of everything you've ever thought about dating a short guy and set the record straight. In a world where short guys are often overlooked simply because of their height, they manage to make up for it in confidence.If it holds true that shorter men don’t have as many dating opportunities, if nothing else, I think shorter men would try harder to be funny, caring, empathetic, honest, hardworking — and just be a gentleman.In that case, the rationale might be that they are more loyal.” Short men , “The female preference for tall partners may present an increased risk of desertion or cuckoldry (paternity by another male) to shorter men.” But, Au notes, the historical and even evolutionary preference for taller men may be misguided.