You can have all the good advice in the world coming at you when you've just been through a relationship break-up.
The time rule is probably nature's way of making sure we don't put ourselves in the way of danger from opportunist, unsuitable lovers before we're emotionally equipped to deal with them.And never, ever do something that could land you in legal trouble. You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb.(If you share the lease, deal with it like responsible adults. Recruit a support system of friends and family to help you fill the time normally spent with a significant other. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease, or pet custody.“Defriending” or at least hiding statuses can help you avoid the constant temptation to check in and see if your ex is living a life more miserable — or worse, more awesome — than yours. Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real.By our second date, I knew it was the real thing, and by the seventh month, we talked about the potential of marriage.At one point, my ex said, “We would have beautiful babies,” and the comment remarkably didn’t scare me. When a man crosses paths with a woman who is capable of straightening him out, a strange rewiring occurs.You want to make sure you're not still in post-breakup mode.You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.