It’s a balmy night in Manhattan’s financial district, and at a sports bar called Stout, everyone is Tindering.The tables are filled with young women and men who’ve been chasing money and deals on Wall Street all day, and now they’re out looking for hookups.However, the Internet has led people to believe there is always something better out there, making them view online dating as more of a continuous game or sport.
A version of this article appears in the November 21, 2016, print issue of ... Dating “often feels like the worst, most precarious form of contemporary ...Abstract: Although online dating has only recently become culturally ...The article also upsets the notion that computer dating systems can simply be ...Everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening. “Ew, this guy has Dad bod,” a young woman says of a potential match, swiping left.Her friends smirk, not looking up.“Tinder sucks,” they say. At a booth in the back, three handsome twentysomething guys in button-downs are having beers.Time is limited, business is the priority, deep meaningful connections are often too much work (and time consuming), and everyone is in a constant state of over-stimulation and distraction.New Yorkers work hard, and when it comes to play, they play hard in a world where anything and everything is possible.However, there is a whole set of norms that exist in a fast-paced, densely populated, transient city such as New York.Dating here is like a pinball game – the ball moves quickly from one point to another just like how you can have a fleeting connection from one person to the next.Forty years before Mark Zuckerberg came up with Facebook, a few Harvard students created Operation Match, the precursor to online dating.The New Yorker reports that in 1965, Lewis Altfest, a 25-year-old accountant, and his friend Robert Ross, a computer programmer for IBM, then made their own version: Project TACT (Technical Automated Compatibility Testing) for young New Yorkers living on the Upper East Side.