Just as a compass points North due to the internal magnet that aligns itself to the natural magnetic field of the earth, your relationship compass works off of magnetic attraction – and I know you know what I mean here. If this sounds familiar, then your relationship compass might be in need of a calibration.He is in his 30s and he seemed just like my perfect man.There was this connection I had with him and we could talk about anything at anytime. I am a lady in my late 20s, pretty, funny, lovable and a good christian but the major problem I have been facing since I knew about dating is the kind of guys I get attracted to; they are usually cool but unserious, have commitment issues, are emotionally unavailable and just want to sleep with me.In my 4 years in the university, I didnt have any relationship, not that I didnt want but guys were not just coming.I was successful and financially independent, and so I couldn't believe I had got caught in a trap by a man. I was constantly being duped and ended up having many sleepless nights, time slipping through my fingers, trying to figure out these elusive, ambiguous, flaky men I was dating. Women with a deep fear of being alone, lack of confidence and low self- esteem will always be the fallback girl. He constantly needs to get the last word in and needs to be right 15. Do not waste precious time with guys who are 'GFN' (good for now).
If the thought of kissing them or touching them doesn’t feel appealing, what’s the point? However, chemistry is a very strange and untrustworthy psychological dynamic.He started acting up, withdrawing, saying I was disturbing him emotionally and that he is tired.Later, he said we should do friends with benefit, I just cut him off totally.Are guys unkind to you or unreliable or make promises they can't keep or won't commit? As a child I allowed people to treat me in ways that were insensitive, and at times even abusive because I was told I HAD TO BE a 'nice girl'. I was also scared of men abandoning me - I didn't like to be on my own that I did whatever it took to get them to like me. He is a walking contradiction If these signs sound familiar - you need to re think who you date.Do the guys you date make you feel bad about yourself? Do you date a guy like this and hope he may change? So I guess it comes as no surprise that I dated the wrong guys. I learned the hard way that these guys have such an enormous ego they usually always have one woman they can 'fall back on' as they always need to have someone in the wings and there is always a woman who will welcome these guys with open arms. You are into his 'potential' rather than facing the reality 12. He speaks down to you or/and make disrespectful remarks 14. Build up a relationship with yourself before you start building a relationship with someone else. Remember when we settle for less, we ALWAYS get less than we settle for.In other words, when you feel “into” someone, it’s more than physical. Most people can relate to the idea that they’ve married one of their parents. Well, I’m certainly not saying find a person you’re totally not attracted to and marry them! But many of my clients have to face the fact that their “picker” doesn’t work very well. Now, I’m not suggesting you let your mom and dad pick who you date and marry, but I’m going to suggest something close to it because I think there was a hidden brilliance in the arranged marriage idea. Your parents don’t carry your “picker problems.” They not only love you and have your best interests in mind (ideally), but they also have an objective and intimate view of who you are. First, your “picker posse” should be 2-3 people, tops.They pick the wrong people: unavailable men or women, people with emotional baggage, abusers, addicts, liars, control freaks, doormats, damsels in distress, etc., etc. Well, one strategy I sometimes use with my single clients is, ironically, what I call the modern day version of the arranged marriage. In a way, since your track record at picking partners isn’t all that hot, they might do a better job at choosing a partner for you than you would. Secondly, they must be your gender or of a different sexual orientation.Chemistry is often thought of as the “be-all, end-all” part of a relationship.Many people completely dismiss a potential partner, someone who is a solid, grounded, honest person, because they don’t feel “it”—the spark of chemistry.These guys used to 'intrigue' me and I would find myself obsessing about them even when they behaved like they could easily live without me. You always feel like you have to prove yourself to him 17. He makes constant derogatory remarks about your friends and family 19. He plays games and always manipulates you to get what he wants 25. After all we cannot expect to find Mr Right when we keep dating Mr Right Now. Why was I making someone a priority when clearly I was merely an option. Here are my top 30 signs YOU are dating the wrong guy. He believes you are his possession, rather than his partner 2. You are not that into him but don't like being alone 20.