And yet, beyond the indisputable fact that this is indeed the reality, there lies the question of whether it ought to be so. Eckholm that the logic of Scripture and the centrality of marriage in society do justify the strong inclination to secure a pastor who is not only married, but also happily married.I would base my argument on the most normative New Testament texts that describe the pastor.To complicate matters more, even though I've had sex in the past, I vowed to abstain from sex before marriage.Since I'm so committed to my career, this decision isn't that difficult for me.Of course there’s always the chance you might, but if they’ve gone to the lengths to get a Masters in Divinity at a seminary and commit themselves to God, that is some serious religious hamster you are going to wrestle with.
People will tell you blatantly that they don’t approve of the very thing you feel like God told you to do. You have to decide right now to do the right thing every time for the rest of your life. One decision on my part can destroy my husband’s career.And you won’t make it unless you are secure in who you are in Christ. There are a few other careers where this holds true, but not many.And here’s the kicker…if you make the decision to do the right thing just to honor your spouse, you will resent him or her for it one day. There’s no person on earth who needs more encouragement than a pastor. And trust me, those few minutes on a Sunday morning where he/she is preaching is the most important few minutes of his/her week. Too many people I know are miserable in ministry…that’s because it’s hard!Almlie calls this unfair discrimination, and he suggested that the motive behind this discrimination comes down to what Eckholm described as “irrational fears” that an unmarried pastor would be hampered in counseling, might be susceptible to sexual advances, or “might be gay.” In Almlie’s words, “Prejudice against single pastors abounds.”.” I have received a good number of responses to the article already, and some clearly argue that I am giving students bad advice.Well, the reality is that the very fact that the article has appeared indicates that I am right in warning students that remaining single will be a significant limitation on their future service as a pastor.asked the question in a news story that put a focus on Mark Almlie, a single seminary graduate who has been looking for a pastorate.As Eckholm reports, Almlie, “despite a sterling education and years of experience, has faced an obstacle that does not exist in most other professions: He is a single pastor, in a field where those doing the hiring overwhelmingly prefer married people and, especially, married men with children.” Mr.In 1 Timothy 3:1-7, the Apostle Paul presents Timothy, and thus the church, with this instruction: sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive,for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?Captain Capitalism is the resident economist of the mano/androsphere.He is a misanthropic, hedonist, nihilistic, cynical type, but he keeps getting proved right every day.