(Sample bit of possibly self-referential dialogue on why relationships sometimes stink: "I'm running a small nursery with someone I used to date.") In 2008, Hawke married Ryan Shawhughes, his children's former nanny, and because life comes full circle, the prototypical slacker now has a teen-ager of his own. ELLE: You've played some incredibly romantic characters. EH: I can't tell you how many times in the '90s I'd meet somebody, we'd be having a nice time, and they'd sigh and go, "This is exactly like is about fighting for romance in your forties. ELLE: seems to argue that an affair is okay provided it's only physical. Yet once we're in that close relationship, we want to own them in total. And she offered me all of this fantastic advice about, you know, her divorce from Eddie Fisher, and Liz Taylor, and how to separate acting from public life. It was this old guy standing at the elevator with this incredibly beautiful young woman that I was kind of making googly eyes with. When you're 30, you think a 50-year-old woman is—nah. ELLE: What's the most grand, romantic gesture you've made? It's about four-feet off the shore and you can drive to it.(For insights on that, see , and suddenly I was very interesting to girls. Julie Delpy's character, Celine, criticizes your character, saying, "You have sex the exact same way every time." Did you write that line? Everybody wants to believe you fall in love and monogamy is no longer an issue. I remember thinking, What does this lady know right now? But when you're 70, a 50-year-old woman is smoking! ELLE: After all of these years, you're still wearing a goatee. EH: The funny thing is, it's the way my beard grows. But it's obvious—we all have certain security blankets. It's not like I wouldn't go out of my house without a goatee. EH: I personally don't think grand gestures are actually romantic. EH: It's a cool nude of Marilyn that one of the assistants took. I'm not into any of those cult-of-personality figures. ELLE: When you got married the second time, was there something you vowed to do differently? The trouble with ideas is they change from day to day.
Director Richard Linklater's "Before" series is the exception to that rule. Well, that's a testament to the films themselves and your performances. I don't know; I have learned a lot from Julie and Rick, both of them. I thought marriage would decrease my variables or something. [Pause] There was this discovery that the male brain isn't done until 28.Whenever you start planning these grand things—I'm gonna pick the great flower from the top of Mt. And this may sound too self help-y, but when I was a young man, I had all these ideas about who I wanted to be. ; born 21 December 1969) is a French-American actress, film director, screenwriter, and singer-songwriter.She studied filmmaking at New York University's Tisch School of the Arts and has directed, written, or acted in more than 30 films, including Europa Europa (1990), Voyager (1991), Three Colors: White (1993), Before Sunrise (1995), An American Werewolf in Paris (1997), Before Sunset (2004), 2 Days in Paris (2007), and Before Midnight (2013). That last movie was about two strangers meeting on a train and falling in love. Lucky for us, he channeled his frustrations into , a sequel he co-wrote about those same two strangers meeting again nine years later. The thing that's so important for young people to know is that, if you use protection, sex is one of the few vices that you can really enjoy as a young person. EH: Part of what we love about people are their secrets—their inner life that you can't touch. But I'll say this: If Bill Clinton had had a brain, he would've pleaded the Fifth. EH: Yeah, but young people always think their problems are so unique. Around the time of Reality Bites, I met Debbie Reynolds at a dinner party. EH: My grandfather told me the greatest thing about aging is that, by the time you're 90, you're intimidated by no one and attracted to everyone. He also divorced young, just six years later, amid infidelity rumors. I remember the reviews for both, and they weren't all good. I lost my virginity to someone I cared for very much and who cared very much for me. ELLE: Did you share any of this advice with your latest costar, Selena Gomez? ELLE: Other than from Debbie Reynolds, ever receive any particularly valuable advice about women? I had no business taking vows that would last more than two weeks. And I'm not going to get married until I'm no longer a shortstop for the New York Yankees." Which is incredibly smart. EH: Success when you're young is really overwhelming. I definitely think my frontal lobe was not finished. He lives his life like, "Hey man, I play shortstop for the New York Yankees.Sadly, I spent the bulk of 18 to 25—when I should have been partying my face off and gathering ye rosebuds while ye may—hopelessly insecure. EH: What kind of idiot would I be to answer that question? EH: [Laughs] The sincere answer to that question is, I'm the most dynamic lover this world has ever seen since Giacomo Casanova. The funny thing is, everything she said to me that night was true. The most romantic moments of my life have been so subtle and small. That deity worship of good looking people has gotten far more play than it needs. EH: Through the failure of my first marriage I learned a lot about myself. One day you want to be a regular guy, then the next day you want to be Warren Beatty. Is there a Shakespeare line about women that rings true to you?ELLE: Which felt better: having your first novel published or losing your virginity? is rare in that we root for the married guy to cheat on his wife. If I could have heard her, I would have avoided so many mistakes. A snowstorm breakfast, a walk, an accidental meeting. Until you know yourself, you don't know how to share your life with another person. EH: Well, the first one that jumps out is, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned." That's famous for a reason.