” there are additional problems that arise from being lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or questioning, beyond the relationship troubles experienced by straight couples.Mars Hallman, a freshman who identifies as pansexual, has had “really negative experience” with some of the pitfalls of LGBTQ relationships, like jealousy when one of the partners is attracted to multiple genders and the other isn’t.“I’ve been in a long-term relationship with people who were always afraid I would leave them for someone else of a different gender identity,” said Hallman. Even when I was completely devoted to one person they would always check over their shoulder, thinking I’m flirting with someone else.”As a transgender man, Hallman is also wary at times of cisgender partners who might not entirely respect his identity.“This goes out to my trans baby gays: my advice to you is if they’re transphobic, run." Hallman said.Make sure you know the myths and facts about relationships so that you can have a GREAT dating experience.
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“You don’t have to subject yourself to a transphobic partner just because they’re hot and think you’re hot.
If they don’t support you and all of you, they’re not for you." Eydam similarly expressed some concerns in dating someone not of her identity—specifically, a straight man.“If I were to date a man, hopefully I could find one here that wouldn’t be opposed to dating a bisexual woman,” Eydam said.
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, “cuffing season,” or the chillier months of the year where singles become more dispositioned to enter relationships, is in full swing.
Members of the Athens LGBTQ community say finding a date can be hard no matter what time of the year it is.“You can’t just walk up to a person and be like ‘hey, are you queer’ because that can be taken really wrong,” said Lauren Eydam, a Junior who identifies as bisexual.