What is it that makes a man interested in you, has him pursue you, and compels him to ask you to be in a relationship with him? It all boils down to one thing a man either feels for you, or he doesn’t.I’m talking about the magic emotion called attraction.They were nice and I could see an eventual relationship coming of our dating. Over the next several days he calls me constantly, starts talking about wanting a commitment from me, about our future together, and basically freaks me out from wanting to even go out with him again.Here is the problem I’ve had…we go out once (maybe twice) and have a good time. (And yes, this has happened at least three times recently.) I understand liking me and wanting to spend time with me, and hoping that things will go further.For a man to want a lasting, committed relationship with a woman, he needs to feel a deep, intense form of attraction called emotional attraction.Learn how this differs from physical attraction plus three ways women can spark the feelings a man needs to make him see her as the one woman he doesn’t want to live without.It’s just having fun with someone, getting to know him, and see where things go.(I believe it’s called dating.) There were a few men in the past several months that I liked.
If you’ve had relationships that have been dead-ends or where your guy became distant and uncertain about wanting to be with you, this is usually why.What I don’t understand is why they get so obsessive.I’m a divorced mother with two young children, but I am not looking for someone to “rescue” me.I do want to be in a relationship, with the right person, and I do want to be married again.However, I am not going to jump into something so quickly that I am blindsided. Dear Leah, Yeah, it’s a drag when a guy says he really likes you and makes a supreme effort to see you.Emily Morse, sexologist, author and host of the with Dr.Drew Pinsky, believes that you should stick to your commitments.Below is a list of some of the red flags I've discovered. Some of these items might not be deal-breakers for you; if the issue is okay with you, then there is no problem. See if you can identify personally with any of these red flags. The person comes on strong at the beginning of the relationship, and tells you exactly what you want to hear. Narcissists can be very intense in their pursuit, and many of them have learned exactly what to say to pull you in, such as, "I've never felt as connected with anyone else as I feel with you," or "You are the most amazing person I've ever met.I can see that no one has ever really seen you." For many narcissists, the pursuit is everything and once they have you hooked, they are either off to another pursuit, or they become more and more demanding of you. The person becomes angry, critical or withdrawn if you say no. Narcissists need constant attention and often become very upset and punishing if you don't give them what they want. The person becomes logical and tries to talk you out of your feelings or your experience.He or she tries to make you feel that you are wrong for your feelings or your position.This is another narcissistic trait: the belief that only his or her feelings and opinions are valid, and that differences pose a threat. The person talks on and on about himself or herself and doesn't ask much about you, or is uninterested when you do talk about yourself. This person is not interested in you or your feelings.