The question, "Can I date while going through a divorce? Whether you decide to do so will depend on your personal situation, but it may not be the best decision to get involved with a new person until after your divorce is finalized.
This is especially true if the dating spouse begins cohabitating with their new partner during the divorce process.While a person who has recently ended their marriage may feel like they should be going out on dates to prove that they are still attractive, there are good reasons to delay getting involved with a new person.Until the separated or divorced person can grieve for the end of their marital relationship (whether they were the one who ended it or not), they will still have unresolved issues that they will take into their next one.Some people have no issues dating before the divorce is final.Others would rather sign the divorce papers before moving ahead.Let's start with the bad news: You're on the road to divorce.But the good news is that romance, love and, yes, even marriage doesn't need to end with divorce.Dating during divorce can have legal consequences both for the divorcing spouse and their new partner.Dating while separated can hold up and complicate the divorce proceedings, can effect custody and visitation decisions, and rarely but possibly, depending on the state, may be grounds for a lawsuit.And I have even helped many through the more peaceful and amicable process of divorce mediation, which can save everyone a great deal of time, stress and money. You also want to be able to devote your time and attention to your divorce, because the decisions you make during this time will affect you for years to come.In light of these experiences, here's my compassionate and informed advice if you're thinking about jumping back into the dating scene, and perhaps even if you hear wedding bells ringing in your near future: • If you've started your divorce process, honestly evaluate how your separation or divorce is going. Further, consider how your spouse may react when he or she finds out you're dating.