(Yes, I had been and you can click if you haven’t seen it yet).
After I finished my explanation, I walked cheerily away, happy to know I had spread some more ostomy awareness. the real honest answer is that it took me 5 years after ostomy surgery to actually be able to date since beforehand, I weighed much more than I do now (thanks to steroids) and was extremely awkward and weird (thanks to being isolated in the hospital without social interaction for 2 years.) But after 5 years of growing into my body and learning how to socialize, the ostomy never, ever, got in the way of my dating life.
(Don’t worry, I responded with a gracious reply, thanking him for checking out the website.) I often get asked if I’ve ever had a problem dating with an ostomy. Having an ostomy had never once gotten in the way of forming relationships at all.They have extra training and certification in this area, work with ostomy patients daily, BUT most of all - have (or can get) information related to your specific surgery.It matters how much colon was removed and where in teh GI tract it was removed from to determine the most specific help for you.I have had a couple of replies to my profile and as soon as they know what an Ostomate is, they disappeared... Different levels of "weird" we're ready to embrace.For some, this situation could present a weird factor that would turn them off. I had a suspicion as to what it related to, but I went out looking and researching just to be sure as I've never heard the exact term.Speak to them, especially since you have a new diagnosis. The cheap ones, just don't seem to make a difference.Earlier this afternoon I was walking along Bay St., here in Toronto, after speaking to a group about Uncover Ostomy.I was wearing my “This is where my ostomy is” tshirt without a jacket, since it was a nice 18 degrees Celsius outside.As I walked past a small group of picketers, I got called over: Obviously, I stopped to explain.The Colostomy Association is a UK charity that provides support, reassurance and practical advice to anyone who has or is about to have stoma surgery.We believe that everyone with a colostomy should be able to live a full and active life.