As long as you believe that you know the other person well, and that you have been honest and open with them allowing them to know what you are really like then you should be ready for marriage.
As you are making a decision on a relationship that should last a lifetime it is better to be safe than sorry and make sure that you have properly considered the consequences of it not working out.
Because it felt important and timely, I deviated last week from my central topic to write a short piece on deceptive marketing practices affecting untold numbers of returning Veterans with G. In addition to being a highly accomplished group, well-educated people are thoughtful planners and strategists.
This week brings a refocus on the central theme of this blog: What are the multiple reasons that well-educated people have better marriages relative to the general population?
I get asked a lot of relationship-themed questions given where I work, and one of them is from women with boyfriends who want to know how long to wait for the ring.
These aren’t women who have been dating for two months, but rather women who are in long-term relationships.
The question above could be put into a category along with questions such as "how long is a piece of string?
" The answer will be different depending on who you ask and the circumstances leading up to the beginning of the relationship.
Maybe this is all being thrown by some hidden Kardashian variable that none of us has uncovered yet.They do not leave their futures—including their marriages—up to chance, but instead proceed through life in a very intentional manner.Many have delayed receiving their relatively high incomes for several years to pursue graduate degrees.Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.But the other findings, like the fact that expensive rings and ceremonies don't yield happier unions, are more surprising.Perhaps ill-matched couples use giant diamonds or flashy weddings to cover up the cracks in their emotional foundations.The average age of marriage across the United States for the same time period was 23.6 for women and 25.8 for men*, so the men and women in this sample were 3 to 3.5 years older on average at the time of marriage.I suppose the relatively high average age of marriage in the sample would explain a curious personal experience that I once had that has never been repeated at other weddings I’ve attended.Whatever the case, Francis and Mialon conclude that "our findings provide little evidence to support the validity of the wedding industry’s general message that connects expensive weddings with positive marital outcomes." The average wedding now costs about ,000, however, so this does not bode well.Now, feel free to navigate to the upper left-hand corner of this page, click on the "print" button, and lay this article before the mascara-streaked face of the nearest Bridezilla.