My guy doesn't mind having fights, loudly, in public, in English, but I do.
When we started dating, I earned more than he did (by a lot), so I paid for a lot of things.
I had heard that Japanese guys tend to be intimidated by foreign women.
When I first came, I felt no guys found me attractive since they never looked my way.
Think Yin-Yang as opposed to circle halves--when opposites are brought together, they form a harmonious and indestructible bond, while two identical parts can only be put together loosely.
Anyway, when coming to Japan for a longer period of time, you might want to find someone to be all lovey-dovey with. In an academic or working environment, at the club, or sitting next to you at Shibuya Starbucks--the perfect man might be just about anywhere.
According to my Japanese husband, a Japanese man with a foreign girlfriend is seen to be 1) rich and/or 2) well endowed. Some of what you said holds true for my relationship, too-- like expectations of a psychic nature and general PDA, but because my guy spent puberty in England, he's a bit weird for here, I guess.
Their weird beliefs about genital size stretch so far as my husband's coworkers inquiring as to my "capacity" early in his days working at his company. I hate them and never have to meet them, and he gets to be known as Mr. Most of the really successful relationships between foreign women and Japanese men that I've seen involve guys who spent serious time abroad.
His culture values the extended family and usually a man is considered the main provider for the family.I explained that there are some of us who fancy them, too. On the arguing point; what tends to happen with me and the partner is that so many potential confrontations kind of get brushed aside, or stored away somewhere usually labelled at as 'well, we're front opposite ends of the world'.Then I think the storage space reaches over capacity and we end up have a proper argument in which she speaks really quickly in Japanese, and I can't quite keep up with what the problem is.Now that I'm the stay-at-home type mostly, he's stuck paying for everything.One of the funniest moments of our pre-relationship (we worked together, both nursing crushes for 6 months before I made the first move) was when we were talking about Bones and he mentioned that some Japanese men find Caucasian women very attractive. This is why it took 6 months to get things started. I'll jump in here as a man, if I may, although my situation is the opposite way round.Rebecca: I wasn’t so attracted to Japanese men but now after living here for three years I would say I definitely am. Christa: I’ve always been attracted to Japanese men, even when I was young, so I did some research before I came here and I saw that generally they are interested but they’re very shy about approaching women so you may need to approach them.So now when I go home I immediately look for the nearest Asian guy like ‘Hey! Christa: I was with a girlfriend in Shibuya and two men approached us on the street and we went out for drinks. *Laughter* Rebecca: Exactly, each time that’s happened to me the guy has been pretty hammered.While in many Western countries the society is based on individualism, the Japanese culture is a different one.The typical Japanese is most comfortable if they feel that the other person is comfortable and pleased too.Chiara: I heard too that Japanese men weren’t so interested in foreign women but my experience is kind of the opposite.But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.